Here we are, standing in front of something that we want but we can’t take the first step. What is it that’s holding you back? Is it fear? Self-doubt? Yes, and no, it’s official name is anxiety.
You’ve come face to face with your desire of achieving more and the worry, nervousness, unease you are experiencing is “paralyzing” you. You think of the ways you could make it happen and the reasons why you should make it happen, but after that has happened, you’re left with one thing…action.
You are aware of the world, kind of aware of how it operates, but you are unaware of your potential as a human. The mind, like almost everything in the world, can be controlled! It takes practice, it takes work, but if not worked on, it will always take you on a wild trip!
The work that I speak of, fortunate or unfortunate, depending on your temperament, is a battlefield. And that battlefield, while all in the mind, is the most dangerous battlefield of them all. Let us walk through the battlefield together and see what we will be facing.
So, do you go left, away from it? Or do you go right, moving towards it? For the sake of taking action, we’ll go right, towards it.
What if this happens? What if that happens? I call these “what ifs” landmines.
The well-known truth about a minefield is that you never know it’s there until it is too late. And once you are in it, you are in it until you are out of it.
After you realize you’re in it, the next step, is learning how to navigate it. This is where you turn the “what ifs” into “let’s try this”. Nothing is 100% certain on the first go so you must get used to testing and experimenting options to help you advance.
Once you become used to the thought of, “doesn’t matter where I place my right foot or my left foot, something can go wrong or nothing may go wrong”, then you become more at ease of the what ifs.
So take that step that has you wondering about the outcome of taking the step. Minefields are a real thing in life, and pose a real danger, but there are plenty of people that have survived them, and so can you.
Build The Barriers
Let me tell you this, you can’t outrun it and you can’t hide from it. Anxiety is everywhere and anywhere you plan to do something new.
Curling up into a ball won’t help, anxiety has no mercy. Sitting in your room doesn’t change anything, it actually makes it worst because you have now isolated yourself to be alone with your thoughts and your worry.
In order to help lower your anxiety levels, until you can completely control it, you must establish boundaries. Boundaries are the marks that serve as the limit of an area, that diving line between being safe and cautious. The boundaries that you set are to prevent ease of access to your mind.
Barriers are great, but they are not the remedy that most hope for. So, what do you do when the obstacles you created do not do their job? When your barriers have failed, what’s the next course of action?
Grab’em If You Have’em…It’s Going To Be A Fight
If it’s gotten to the point in battle that the barriers you have put into place have been penetrated, then it’s time to get physical with the problem. It’s time to square up and throw those hands. In other words, it’s time to fight!
Like I said, it’s going to be a fight, but who said it has to be a fair one?! Remember, the only rules that exist in battle are the ones you create, the ones that are self-imposed. If you are a person that likes to keep it “fair”, then by all means, do so. If you are the type that want to ensure you survive, at any cost, then fair is not an option.
So, since you may not have mastered how to control anxiety, I highly advise you to grab some brass knuckles for extra support. Give yourself a better chance to survive the challenge, until you have become used to the battlefield.
When your defenses are penetrated and you’re staring that thing in its eyes, you better be ready to go all in and fight it out! That’s the only course of action left. Your will power versus that thing’s will power. Your staying power, the ability to withstand anything and keep going. Doesn’t matter if you’re broken or bruised, anxiety has to see that you’re not the one to play around with.
If you’re reading this, and do not suffer from anxiety, do the world a favor and help someone with theirs. Whether it’s your fight or not, go and help someone with whatever is making them anxious. Most times, someone just needs another person to take that first step with. This is not “hand holding”, this is two people facing a problem together, which is different.
It would be nice to think you can take on a world champion by yourself, but unless you are trained and experienced, you may want to grab a buddy for a bit of help. So, go “slug it out”. Throw those fists like your life depends on it, because it does. If you tap out to anxiety every time, you will slowly, if ever, progress in life.
Just because that instance is over does not mean it’s gone forever. Anxiety is in all of us and it appears, in most people’s lives, on a daily basis.
The only true healing that can happen, after anxiety has left, is to calm the mind and consume the fact that you can handle it. The aftermath is real, in any battle. Being anxious is unpleasant, to say the least, and the fallout can be severe and significant. So long as you remember this, you will be on the road to recovery a lot sooner in the healing process. The main thing you need to remember is this…win some, lose some.
Small victories should be acknowledged, when you score them. Just because you didn’t fully knockout the problem, doesn’t mean you did not accomplish something. You may not have outright beat the problem, but you did find a way to overcome what once had you paralyzed.
Like most things in life, it’s a process. Overcoming anxiety is a process. Don’t rush it, work it. Develop and exercise strategies to beat it. Be the war-torn warrior that is built and shaped by the process, and emerges victorious in every single encounter.